Harry Potter And Parker

Dear Parker,

You have discovered the magical world of Harry Potter, and in doing so have made your Mommy so happy and proud. We were all cuddled up together one day watching the first movie on TV. You were asking so many questions and wanted so badly to help Harry fight off Voldemort, and you looked at me with a  big grin and asked if I would read you the books when you were bigger. "When I'm five?" you asked eagerly, and how could I refuse?

So, when you are five, I will start reading you the first book and we will see where we go from there. I am sure these are books and movies we will share many, many times as you and your brother grow. They are such a magical series. (The books are better, of course, but the movies aren't terrible.) I am so excited to be sharing something with you that I enjoyed so much when I was younger, and still do if it comes to that.

I even made you a magic wand last night using my amazing Magical Mommy Skills. (Which involve dowel rods, a glue gun, and paint.) You spent a large part of today using that wand to help Harry fight Voldemort during a Harry Potter Marathon on ABC Family. I am glad you enjoy the movies, though I can't wait to share the books with you. They are better. Of course. Still, as amazing as you are, I am not sure you have the patience to sit through pictureless chapter books yet. I am probably, once again, underestimating you. I am sorry for that. I seem to do it a lot. It's not that I don't know you are amazing, it is just that I have a hard time wrapping my mind around how amazingly awesome you are. It's too much for one mind to take in. :0)

Enjoy your magic, little boy. You make mine every day.

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

Over Balls

Dear Parker,

What a fun day. We usually have fun days, but today was extra fun. We headed up to Boise today, because Mommy had a doctors appointment early in the morning. As we entered the highway, you asked where we were going, and after I told you you very happily said:

"Oh good, Can we get my over balls?"

Alarmed and confused, I said "I'm sorry, what?"

"Some over balls that go kick!"

"What?!"

Now, you have this voice that you use when I am just not getting it. This doesn't happen often, but sometimes you are trying to explain something to me and it just isn't translating. I can't fake it either. If I try to pretend I know what you are saying, you will continue to repeat it until I repeat it to you correctly. You are so patient though. You have this tone that sort of sounds like "My Mother Is An Idiot But If I'm Patient She'll Get It", though I know you would never actually say that to me. You were using that voice now when you said "Over balls, Mommy. The kind that go kick!"

After mulling it over in my mind again, the only response I could come up with was another "What?"

If you have figured out what it was you were asking for, you are quicker than me. I was still saying "What?" fifteen minutes later when you finally, very slowly and patiently, said: "I want to get my over balls. The ones like Sebastian has that go kick over your shoulders!" 

And I got it. I was so proud of myself!!! So were you, I think. 

That's right, you wanted OVERALLS that go CLICK over your shoulders like Sebastian's. I had told you several weeks ago that the next time we went to Boise we would get you some overalls, and you hadn't forgotten. So you are now the proud owner of two new pairs of "over balls". You wear them well.

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

Mommy Honey

Dear Parker,

Sometimes I wonder if every mother gets to have the type of conversations I get to have with you. I rather think not. I also think I am going to have my hands full for the rest of my life with you. My hands and my heart.

Parker: "I am going to call you Honey."

Mommy: "But, sweetheart, I am your Mommy."

Parker: "Daddy calls you honey."

Mommy: "Yes he does, but Daddy is my husband. You are my son, so you call me Mommy."

Parker, after giving this some thought: "I'll call you Mommy Honey."

And how do you argue with that? Especially when you reached out, touched my cheek, and smiled sweetly like you just knew I couldn't argue with you, and then followed it up with "I love you!"

The day I fear most with you is the day you realize the power you have. 

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

In The Woods

Dear Parker,

Yesterday I taught you how to pee in the woods. I always thought it would be your father doing that, but desperate times call for desperate measures. At first you were very unsure about it, but once I assured you that it was OK, you thought it all a fun game! You tried to aim for weeds and laughed like a maniac the entire time. Coolest thing since sliced bread. 

Today, you were at the park with Hootie and Sebastian. Mommy was sick and in bed, so I didn't get to hear this story until later. I have no idea what Hootie was doing, but you were in a little area on the playground where she could see your head, but not the rest of you. Apparently, you were there for quite some time, and when she went to check on you, you had decided to practice your new found freedom of eliminating in the great outdoors...but pooping on the playground. 

It was quickly cleaned up, and I am pretty sure you left just as quickly, Hootie explaining to you that you just don't do that sort of thing. Later on, when I learned of it, we had a talk about how it is very important that you only do these things when there are no other options and Mommy or Daddy says it is OK. It probably would not have been as amusing to me had I been the one at the park with you, but as I wasn't, it was great fun for Mommy to hear about. I am hoping this doesn't continue to be a thing, but if it does I will have several stories to share with the woman you one day bring home as your bride, won't I?
 

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

How A Three Year Old Copes

Dear Parker,

It has been a rough month or so for you. I am sorry about that. I would do anything if I could bring your Daddy back right now, but I can't. He's on yet another deployment, his third since you were born, and his second in just a year, and that isn't fair to you. And I am so sorry.

You really have been a little trooper for the most part. You've cried. Asked me when Daddy could come home and told me how very much you miss him, but there have been funny moments too. Like when you asked me if we could just eat up all the kisses in your Daddy Kiss jar right now so that Daddy could come home. It broke my heart a little having to tell you that it didn't work like that, but it made me smile that you had thought of it. 

Then there was the time in the car, just four days after Daddy left, when the song God Gave Me You came on the radio. In your perfect, matter-of-fact voice you said to me "Mommy, God gave you me. I love God! He makes me happy. He made me strong. He made you strong too, Mama." I cried then, and thanked God for such an amazing son. 

Then there was the day you proposed to me. On May 11th you came up to me completely out of the blue and said "Mama, we're getting married!" I asked you what about Daddy, and you very obligingly told me "Daddy can be there." You have told me several times since that we will be getting married, though you have now informed me that I can be married to Daddy too. 

You miss him so very much. So does Sebastian, and so do I, but you are doing wonderfully! It really will be over before you know it, and Daddy will be home. As you say every night, your jar of kisses is going "downer and downer", and every kiss brings Daddy one day closer to being home with us again.

Later on today we are going to the airport to pick up your Hootie and Aunt Harmony. They will be visiting us for five weeks, so hopefully that will help the days go by quickly. I am worried that you will take it hard when they go, but we will get through this. No deployment will get the better of us. As you used to say to me last Summer "It's just you and me, Mommy! You and me!" and now Sebastian. There is nothing we can't get through together as a family. 

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

More? Already?

Dear Parker,

Every day it is something new. And most days it is something that makes me smile. Today, I heard you talking in the play room while I made lunch. Thinking you were talking to me, I called "What did you say, honey?"

"I'm not talking to you, Mommy. I'm just talking to God."

"Oh. OK." Smiling to myself, and thinking I'd probably get a very sweet response to share, I asked "What are you talking to God about?"

"I'm just asking Him if we can have another baby."

Oh boy. This is what happens when your children love each other more than life...they want more! I want you to remember this one day when you are asking me why in the world I cursed you with so many younger brothers. (And sisters maybe.)

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

Sexy?

Dear Parker, 

Sometimes the conversations I have with you are just too much. I would hate to forget any of them, so I post them here, both so that I will remember them and so that you can read them one day and laugh. (Also, you can say to yourself "My kids are normal after all!")

Parker: "Mommy, what does 'sexy' mean?"

Mommy, frantically trying to come up with a three year old appropriate answer: "It means that someone is pretty or handsome to themselves or other people."

Parker: "Oh...So I am sexy and I know it!"

Do you know how alarming it is when your three year old says that? Alarming and hilarious, but the hilarious didn't come until later. That is why we listen to Country music when you are in the car with Mommy. 

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

Lunch

Dear Parker,

You are so my son!

As I was cooling down after my workout today I heard something very large being dragged down the hall. Peering around the corner, I find that you have dragged one of your toy tubs into the kitchen, suspiciously close to the pantry. 

Doing my duty as a Mommy, I asked what you were trying to get, and in the sweetest, sugar-won't-melt-in-his-mouth voice you replied "I was just getting you lunch." with such a smile and bat of your eyelashes that you almost could convince me. You know, if I didn't know you were mine. :0)

Until next time, be good (if you can), be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

Get His Snot!

Dear Parker,

You crack me up on a daily basis. Today was no exception.

We were at the park for a play date today, and while on the swings we saw another little boy, maybe a year older than you, who had a runny nose. You pointed at him and urgently told me "Mommy, he has snot! Get it!"

You have been having some allergy problems, so I have been wiping up a lot of snot lately, but I patiently told you that it wasn't my job to get his snot. You looked at me right in the eye and very firmly said "Yes it is, Mommy. Your job is getting snot." As I have said, I have been wiping up a lot of snot lately between you and your brother, but it made me laugh to think you have regulated my job as a stay at home mother to wiping up snot. 

I have since explained to you that my job is to wipe up you and Sebastian's snot, not anyone else's, but you still made me smile. Thank you for that, son.

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy

Dear Parker

Dear Parker, 

I should have done this years ago. I am sorry. I meant to, but, well, life got in the way. I am sorry for that. I have spent awhile feeling guilty about it, because I did intend on doing this from the time you were born, but then I realized that it's never too late. After all, you are only getting ready to turn three. It's not like you are eighteen and I'm sitting here trying to write to you about your life. 

Almost three. That completely baffles me. You will turn three years old in less than a month, and I could swear that I'd just brought you home yesterday. I know that I am your mother, but I am not just being biased when I tell you that you are a truly remarkable little man. I have stepped back and tried to look at you with an objective eye, especially in comparison to other children your age. The truth is, you out shine most children older than you. Believe it or not, there are not many children your age with your vocabulary, who are fully potty trained (even at night), who can write and spell (and finger spell) their names...you are an exceptional little boy. And I am not just saying that because I am your mother.

Earlier this week we were laying in bed together like we do every morning. You reached out and touched my face, placing your cheek in my palm and whispered "Mommy, I want to tell you a secret." You then smiled and continued with "I love your beautiful eyes. They are my favorite. I love your beautiful ears and your beautiful lips and your beautiful feet." My ears? I laughed, I had to, but you warmed my heart. You are one of the sweetest little people I have ever known.

You are also the most amazing big brother ever to walk the Earth, hands down. Again, this could be me just being a biased Mommy, except that there is no way that anyone could mistake the look that Sebastian gives you every time you are in his sights. And you just dote on him! It is the sweetest thing to see. Any time he makes a sound you look at me and say "Mommy, Sebastian is crying!" then you run to wherever he is and start singing the ABCs. (That is his favorite song...and even more so when you are the one singing it.) 

Right now as I write this your favorite color is red. Your favorite movie is Cars (or Cars 2). You worship the ground your Daddy walks on, but you are afraid he's going to leave again. And sometimes, while you won't admit it, you still love to snuggle up with your Mommy. :0)

I love you, Parker. More than you could ever imagine. You are my first, beautiful little miracle. 

Until next time, be good, be happy, and know that I love you.

Love,

Mommy